I don’t remember the last time I had a boo— and that’s probably because each time I had one, it ended so badly that I’d rather block the relationship from my memory altogether than risk romanticizing the disaster that it actually was. For the longest time, I thought this was a red flag (mine, of course), but maybe it’s a blessing in disguise. Truth be told, ending things on bad terms has done me way more favors than I’d like to admit. Not convinced? Let me break it down for you. Here are seven reasons why cutting ties messily with your ex might just be the best decision you’ll ever make.
You don’t have to take accountability for your actions
You’re not on talking terms anymore, and will most likely never see them again, so why even bother?
That door is closed, and it’s closed for good
Ending on good terms always leaves you clinging to the faint hope that you might get back together someday—and let me tell you, there’s nothing more dangerous than hope in that situation. It lingers, pulls you back, and makes moving on even harder. And don’t even get me started on that “let’s stay in touch” nonsense: it’s just a way to keep the door cracked open, when in reality, you know you should both just shut it, lock it, and never consider knocking on it ever again.
It makes you feel better about your decision
There’s no second-guessing, and there’s no guilt either— as long as they’re the villain in your story. When the blame is squarely on them, it’s easier to walk away, knowing that you made the right call for your own well-being (even if that’s not true x).
You won’t have to hear of them ever again
Period. No “random texts”, no “accidental” run-ins, and certainly no reminders of what could’ve been. It’s a full-on exit from your life, and honestly, it’s the peace you deserve and the best kind of closure you can get. Plus, you won’t have to feel guilty about moving on and finding someone new either OR feeling like you’re betraying whatever you both had in the past.
You get to cuss them stress-free
No need to hold your tongue or pretend everything’s fine— just a clean slate and a chance to laugh at all the different ways you could’ve clapped back at them behind their back. Bonus: Your friends will have a field day helping you come up with the most savage comebacks.
Blame the world’s problems on them
Oh, and while you’re at it, feel free to blame all of society’s problems on them. Global warming? Definitely their fault. World hunger? That’s on them too. You’d be surprised at how therapeutic it can be to pin every little, or big, inconvenience of life on them.
You can channel all the anger you have into something more productive
Take all that pent-up anger and pour it into something that’ll actually make you feel better. Start writing your revenge novel, or finally launch that dream project you’ve been putting off, or hit the gym— there’s just nothing quite like that fire to get yourself back on track. You’ll be out here looking hotter, hopefully more successful, or at least too busy for their nonsense (and all your overthinking).
